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this document was extremely handy although in the end, I just reinstalled 1.1 https://docs.harvesterhci.io/v1.1/upgrade/troubleshooting/#start-over-an-upgrade

Thanks Dave. Yes, I had read that page but none of the symptoms listed matched my issue. I did try to restart the upgrade by deleting that CRD, but the update button has not shown up again :-(